How to Stay Content in your Relationship
Let me first say that, everyone is different. Everyone has different personalities that mesh differently with other personalities. I am NO expert in relationships. The time period, age, and life experiences are going to look different for everyone. There is NOTHING wrong with you if your story looks different from mine. I am simply sharing what has proved true from my experiences, and from watching those around me.
James and I met when I was 16 and he was 19. Life for us was simple at that point in our lives. However, the key factors of how we handled things still remain true today. We took our relationship slowly. Yes we were young, but we dated for 3 years, was engaged for 2 years, and now have been married for almost 4 years. I’m not saying everyone should be engaged for 2 years (we did this because we were in college). But I do believe that you need to know yourself, truly and independently, before you commit to spending the rest of your life with someone else.
Thing biggest advice that I can give anyone is don’t rush. Don’t spend every minute of your free time together. Don’t text each other 25/7. The #1 reason for break-ups and divorce is people claim to “lose their spark.” How can you expect to feel that intense spark for someone for your entire life if you use it all up in the first three months? And on top of that, be real. If you start a relationship doing and saying things that you wouldn’t normally on a regular basis, then someone is going to be let down when that effort runs out.
With all of this said, here are what I consider to be the keys to a happy marriage:
Keys to a Happy Marriage
- We are with our own brains 24/7; we’ve already had the conversation in our own head 20 times; we’ve already rationalized everything and answered our own selves in the way that we deem appropriate. And sometimes we forget that the people around us are clueless of what we’ve been “discussing” with ourselves. People aren’t mind-readers.
- If you’re in a relationship with someone, clearly you like them… you want some sort of future with them. Be real with them. If they can’t accept your honesty, then you shouldn’t be together in the first place.
- James and I probably laugh at each other more than we talk to each other. Don’t take life too seriously. Make jokes. Be absolutely ridiculous. Enjoy the little things in life.
- You need to know yourself. You need time for yourself – to pursue your own interests and thoughts. However, there is a line here are well; don’t isolate yourself or become selfish with your time.
- Personally, our faith is a big part of who we are. We set aside certain times to read and spend time with God. Our faith allows us as a couple to remain positive, joyous, and hopeful – even when the things of life might not be going great.
Thank you for reading my keys to a happy marriage. Again, I am no expert and these tips are not a cookie cutter answer for everyone. However, I think that each key gives us something to think about when reflexing on our relationships.
I wish you the absolute best in this life and in your relationships. Follow along on Instagram for more travel and style updates.
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